Why keep resolutions just to New Year? This Independence Day, let us pledge to gift our children a better version of freedom, one that is inclusive and makes this world a better place to live in.
What is freedom? This is one question I have tried to find an answer to all my life. And yet, I still haven’t found that one single definition that can provide me the clarity I need about its meaning.
Google says, freedom is, “the power to act, speak or think as one wants.”
The words act, speak and think are pretty clear, but what do you mean by “as one wants?”
Don’t you think we first need to underline, understand, inculcate, analyze and then put this “freedom”to practice? And what kind of freedom do we want to teach our children? Freedom that the Indian Constitution bestows on us or the one that they should discover for themselves?
On the occasion of Independence Day, let’s try and understand freedom a little better for the sake of every new sapling yet to bloom; every child who not just needs to understand the definition but also how to be at peace with it; and for every parent who doesn’t let a child create her own world in the name of trying to protect them.
As parents, many a times, we fail or forget to discuss certain basic concepts with children.We just ask them to accept our definitions. Freedom is also once such notion. For instance, when we ask them to choose between two toys, and secretly wish they choose the less annoying one – are we really giving them a choice?
In sometimes direct, and many a times indirect ways, we end up forcing our own choices/thoughts on our children. Right from childhood to their teens and finally adult life, in one way or other, we offer them choices that have been curated by us. But when you look at it, it is actually us trying to wrap authority in the name of freedom and offer it to them.
We are all evolving as human beings each moment and today, we are looking at a world where we will have to trust our children’s potential. We have to trust them to break down and decode the idea of freedom for this digital age.
Let them unravel this puzzle one piece at a time. AS ONE WANTS– these words hold different meanings and tones to different people. Let our kids acknowledge this and think about what they want as freedom and most importantly, HOW they wish to achieve it.
Freedom also means choosing the less popular path, without any fear of being judged; it is about lending a hand to the needy; it is about being a patient listener.It also means laughing without inhibitions, and finding not just external peace but also internal.
Freedom is being free of judgments, pessimism, negative environment and vibes. Freedom means to ensure that people around you also have a choice. It is about making this world a better place to live.
So, finding freedom means understanding and implementing the true meaning of “as one wants.” Being parents, we have to remember that children imitate us not just physically but they also imbibe the way we think. That’s why it is important for us to update our knowledge and do an advanced course on the meaning of freedom.
We can claim to be independent in the truest sense when we refrain from being a slave to our own mind. A child with a healthy mind will build a better nation.
For someone who has studied sociology,I understand the concept of letting the definition of freedom evolve. Its norms and values change as part of the social structure, based on an individual’s needs.
So, as parents, we need to constantly engage with our children and help them understand, and also achieve, true freedom. This will happen naturally when they will learn how to make better choices with the help of “freedom” of thought.
Children flourish when we don’t hold them back and let them soar high in the sky with their heads held high. And when they are confident, they will act, speak and think positively. Let’s pledge this Independence Day to gift our children the freedom they deserve and can cherish forever.
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